Reply- Defining Yourself

   I have gotten multiple questions in reply to my previous blog about the different labels that lesbians use to define themselves. For example, "I dress femme and butch? What am I?"; " Do femmes have to date butch and vise versa?." etc...
   Labels can be a tricky topic. Labels can give you confidence on how you see yourself or how others see you; or labels can be taken too seriously and they can end up limiting you if you get caught up in them. This is why I have my "Lesbian Spectrum" theory; this way, there is no definite category you fall into- plenty of girls fall into the middle. Why limit yourself?
   As for who dates who, I have seen it all. I have seen butches with other butches. I, myself, have dated a femme before. The only problem with this is two lesbians too much alike can end up fighting for the more feminine/ masculine role. I'm not saying it can't work, but each situation is different so always give it a try and make compromises.
   As a person, you have to get past that exterior of each lesbian and see the person and character within. Of course, everyone has a "type" physically, and that is okay too. The physical qualities is what first reels us in to get to know the person- not to mention you will eventually have sex with the person if you want to get serious (or not ;) )- you need to be attracted to them. My point is, it may surprise you- if you let your guard down and stop getting caught up in the redtape of labels- just whom you might end up being attracted to.
   In the end, each person is different. Remember stereotypes are a very general thing, and how you see yourself is much more important than how someone else sees you.
-Dakota